Male Sexual Performance Solutions for Improved Satisfaction

I was recently looking for some good Foreplay related Facebook groups to join and came across 40 Mistakes Men Make While Having Sex With Women. This particular item cracked me up when I first read it (funny part in bold):

20) COMING TOO SOON.
Every man's fear with reason. If you shoot before you see the whites of her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure her pleasure too.

The image of my wife's eyes rolling back in her head during orgasm as an indicator of when I should shoot sent me into fits of laughter (had thoughts of a shark going for the kill and a demon possessed girl as in the Exorcist). The common perception is that guys generally ejaculate prematurely. But then comes (pun intended of course) the very next complaint:

21) NOT COMING SOON ENOUGH.
It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing is the mark of a sex god, but to her it's more likely the mark of a numb vagina.

Curiously absent from the main list, something men really do fear even more:

?) NOT GETTING IT UP
When you have a ready and willing naked woman in bed with you, failing to get an erection is an insult to her. She will feel there is something wrong with her (or take offense and ridicule you).

The penis is a strange, seemingly untamable beast which, at times, appears as if it has a mind of its own - especially to the person it is attached to. Except for a few self centered cavemen out there, most reasonably intelligent men genuinely care about their partner's pleasure. The "jokes" about male sexual performance can be funny if you accept occasional equipment malfunction and adapt to other mutually enjoyable pleasuring techniques. However, if you are afflicted by impotence, erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, it is definitely not funny. And, you know that worrying about it tends to make it worse. It can get to the point where you even want to avoid sex altogether to escape inevitable embarrassment and criticism.

Sometimes, our "special friend" just doesn't want to cooperate due to our stress, physical or mental exhaustion, excessive drinking, etc. There are of course certain male performance issues due to biological problems that will require medical attention. However, unless you have chronic erectile dysfunction, there are other solutions that you can use. They can dramatically transform your sexual performance and allow you to enjoy more satisfying pleasure with your partner. Discover how you can improve your sex life with lasting change instead of quick fixes or avoidance. Make your sexual performance, mutual pleasure and your happiness together a priority – you both deserve it.

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If an unfortunate equipment malfunction does occur, take the time to pleasure your lover in other ways. Remember that only 30% of women have actually achieved orgasm during intercourse – and that does NOT mean every time they have intercourse either. Women generally take longer to work up to orgasmic arousal which is why foreplay is so important. In addition to mental stimulation to set the mood, oral and manual stimulation of her entire body is essential (not an hour of thrusting).

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Secret Arts of Hot Erotic Talk - Talking Dirty is Hot Foreplay

Does the idea of dirty talk in the bedroom get you excited? Have you been asked to talk dirty while making love but are too shy to go for it? Or, do you want some hot erotic talk from your lover but they feel too inhibited to let go? You are not alone. Words and how we say them have an extremely powerful influence on our emotions good and bad.

Ever wonder why phone sex is such a big business? Guys spend many dollars a minute for hot, dirty talk from lusty women. And women swoon over a sexy voice and devour romance novels with descriptive scenes of seduction. Although most women and men tend to be shy expressing their erotic desires, we all love to hear a sexy voice focused on arousing us. With a few techniques, you can learn how to use your voice as a powerful aural aphrodisiac. Talking dirty is hot foreplay when you discover your special language of love.

But talking dirty is not just about using naughty or even filthy words. It is about the erotic emotions and desires you want to convey and express. Depending upon the context, you may want to scream profanities in unbridled passion or whisper the same words in public as a flirtatious hint of your frisky intentions. Consider the sultry whisper of a seductress, the harsh command of a dominatrix or the ecstatic moans of a porn star. You can stimulate your lover's erotic imagination with explicit and descriptive detail or seduce them with simple phrases spoken in a sexy tone.

When you learn a few secret aural arousal techniques and master the art of hot erotic talk, with practice, you will be able to:

• Seduce your partner into (or out of) bed to make wild, passionate love.


• Get your lover hot for you from a distance (phone sex or sexy voice messages) so they rush home to be with you.


• Relax your lover and help them become receptive to fully enjoy the subtle sensations of slowly and sensually pleasuring each other.


• Use your mouth in new ways to make your lover ache and quiver with desire for your physical touch.


• Prolong foreplay while keeping the sexual heat just below the boiling point.


• Describe in detail how you want to be pleasured in ways that are exciting and satisfying for both of you.


• Paint an erotic mental picture of new sex play activities you would like to try and see where they lead.


• Stimulate your erotic imaginations together and unlock secret sexual fantasies to share (every erotic activity is possible in your mind).


• Build sexual tension, increase passion and even trigger intense orgasms with almost hypnotic control.

To be effective, your erotic talk needs to seem natural to you so that you feel both comfortable and confident in what you say and how you say it. This comes from practice and by becoming more aware of what you both like. Some words and phrases may feel and sound awkward at first. Here are a few ways to practice talking dirty:

• When you are reading or watching a movie, keep track of sexy words used in romantic or arousing scenes. Make a list of erotic phrases you can use and, when alone, practice saying them out loud in a sexy voice. Get familiar with how the words sound and how they make you feel.


• Get yourself some erotic literature that includes descriptive terms for various body parts and sex activities. Include material your lover would read. Read short, steamy passages out loud and experiment with different ways to make them sound seductive as you speak them. Try whispering, lowering or raising your tone, using a throaty purr or even speaking with an accent.


• Write out a fantasy or short erotic story involving yourself and your lover. Weave in words and phrases you find arousing (from above). Read the story out loud to yourself using different types of voice to see which versions you find most arousing.


• Write out a list of sexual compliments (e.g. "I love the way you ...", "It feels so good when you ...") and desires (e.g. "I want your hot tongue ...", "Use your fingers to ..."). Say them out loud the way you envision using them. You may actually want to practice these while masturbating to feel how the words add to your arousal.

Once you feel confident with your aural skills, here are some ways to use erotic talk to spice up your sex life:

• While in a public situation, seductively whisper how you want to ravish your lover. Build the anticipation with naughty ideas that might just come true before you actually get home.


• Use erotically encouraging words to describe exactly what you want and need to reach an intense orgasm. Hearing your own words can be extremely exciting too.


• When internet dating, your first phone call is extremely important. A seductive voice and flirtatious words can stimulate an intense desire and sense of attraction for you.


• Engage in phone sex with your partner when you are apart (or even in separate rooms). Keep long distance relationships hot and passionate.


• Leave naughty voice messages that will make your lover rush home craving your touch.


• Record a sexy story or fantasy on your computer and download it to your lover's MP3 player or iPod. Since many play videos now, you can even use a webcam to record a sexy video of yourself telling the erotic story.


• Stimulate your lover's erotic imagination while you are making love. With their eyes closed, take them into a fantasy with your voice.


• When engaging in soft bondage play using a blindfold, use your voice to tease and tantalize your submissive lover. Describe what you are going to do before you do it (or surprise them and do something total unexpected).

Remember that you are using dirty talk to excite both your self and your lover. However, keep in mind that, for some people, certain words have emotional triggers to bad memories. If you do hit a nerve, learn from each other and adapt. When you are open and honestly communicate about sex, you will both feel empowered and be more willing to express your erotic desires. Learn to make love with words and you will be able to ignite sexual fireworks with your hot mental foreplay.

If you have been holding back using your voice as part of your arousal arsenal, learn to unleash its power now and be amazed at the erotic results.

• For women, become a verbal vixen empowered to get the passionate sex you crave only in your wildest fantasies. Get your guy hot and eager with The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty.


• For guys, learn the language of love with a suave, sexy voice and women will swoon with a lust for your sensual touch. Click on Learn Talking Dirty Secrets to seduce your lady and guide her fantasies to a satisfying climax.

Get started today and unlock the secret, exciting, sexual powers of your voice. Expressing yourselves with erotic talk will also encourage you to have more intimate discussions and improve other aspects of your relationship. Learn the secrets or aural sex today and enjoy hot mental foreplay. Naughty, dirty talk in and out of the bedroom will spice up your relationship in many creative ways.

Also, if you are not yet in a relationship, learning to how to flirt and seduce with words is even more essential. These skills will be your most valuable asset when meeting and dating people any where. Internet dating especially relies on the power of your words and eventually your voice to generate attraction. Just imagine using a sexy seductive voice on your first phone call getting to know each other in preparation for that first date. Do it for yourself and the soul mate you will soon meet.

For more information, click Talking Dirty is Hot Foreplay for guys or The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty for women. Discover how you can use erotic talk to spice up your relationship and make sex even more exciting. You will be absolutely amazed at the sexual pleasures you unleash when you unlock the secrets of talking dirty.

Do you enjoy talking dirty in bed? What do you say to get your partner hot and ready for sex? Leave a comment describing your experience with erotic talk.

Get Frisky During the Holidays - 10 Randy Reasons to Have More Festive Sex

With all the hustle and bustle during the holidays, many couples tend to overlook their own pleasure. The spirit of giving should apply to yourself and your relationship as well. Not in a selfish way of course, but rather as a way to enhance your bond together so that you have even more joy and happiness to share. The holidays provide the perfect opportunity to get frisky with each other and have more intimate fun together. Here are 10 randy reasons to enjoy more sex during the holidays:

1. You have more time to leisurely enjoy deeper levels of intimacy. Luxuriate in the subtle sensual pleasures of prolonged foreplay as you creatively explore each others' mind and body.


2. When you have great sex you are happier with each other and toward other people. You will radiate a warm glow that will touch everyone you meet. You will indirectly share your love for each other and add more cheer to the holiday season.


3. Adapt the 12 Days of Christmas concept into a creative challenge to have different sexual experiences 12 days in a row. Plan unique sex play ideas together in advance or spontaneously surprise your lover with a totally new sensual delight each day. Bonus points if you can include all activities from previous days building toward a spectacular climax. Keep the erotic fires burning through the holidays.


4. Create lasting memories with a special new relationship building tradition just for the two of you. It can be simple and sweet such as slow dancing naked at midnight while kissing under mistletoe or extravagant like having sex together in a different city or country every year. Give yourself something naughty or nice to look forward to all year long.


5. Plan a private, more intimate gift giving time with distinctly erotic intentions. Surprise each other with unique or exotic luxury love toys and accessories that convey how much you treasure the pleasures you share together.


6. Get ready for an evening out two hours early then ravish each other while dressed up and looking your best. Have sex while partially clothed to make it even more exciting. Even if just a quickie, your sexy tryst will have you eagerly anticipating more fun when you return home. Also, it is a good reason to drink in moderation so you can keep your private after party going all night.


7. Sex burns off calories and is an excellent exercise when done vigorously for extended periods. Enjoy feasting while knowing you will need the energy later to keep up with each other. Hot & sticky sexercise sessions for at least 20 minutes three times a week can be great for your health.


8. Schedule time for sensual stress relief to break up the hectic holiday festivities. Great sex is an excellent way to melt away stress. Multiple sex therapy sessions during the day may be in order. If you don't think you have time for sex, reconsider, make it a priority and you will be amazed how good you feel.


9. Savor chocolates, sweet liquors and other deliciously succulent holiday foods while thinking of naughty ways to incorporate them into your sex play. Secretly flirt and tempt each other with decadent ideas of oral arousal. Everything will taste even better when you whet your erotic appetite for each other.


10. Challenge each other to have a simultaneous orgasm at the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve. You may want to rehearse frequently before the big event to get the timing right.

Sexual intimacy is essential to a healthy, loving relationship. Regardless of your reasons, take advantage of any opportunity you can to make love. During this holiday season, show how much you appreciate the one you love by spending more intimate time enjoying each other. Your gift of loving pleasure will be treasured. Make pleasure a priority and enjoy great sex together as often as you can what ever your reason.