Male Sexual Performance Solutions for Improved Satisfaction

I was recently looking for some good Foreplay related Facebook groups to join and came across 40 Mistakes Men Make While Having Sex With Women. This particular item cracked me up when I first read it (funny part in bold):

20) COMING TOO SOON.
Every man's fear with reason. If you shoot before you see the whites of her eyes, make sure you have a backup plan to ensure her pleasure too.

The image of my wife's eyes rolling back in her head during orgasm as an indicator of when I should shoot sent me into fits of laughter (had thoughts of a shark going for the kill and a demon possessed girl as in the Exorcist). The common perception is that guys generally ejaculate prematurely. But then comes (pun intended of course) the very next complaint:

21) NOT COMING SOON ENOUGH.
It may appear to you that humping for an hour without climaxing is the mark of a sex god, but to her it's more likely the mark of a numb vagina.

Curiously absent from the main list, something men really do fear even more:

?) NOT GETTING IT UP
When you have a ready and willing naked woman in bed with you, failing to get an erection is an insult to her. She will feel there is something wrong with her (or take offense and ridicule you).

The penis is a strange, seemingly untamable beast which, at times, appears as if it has a mind of its own - especially to the person it is attached to. Except for a few self centered cavemen out there, most reasonably intelligent men genuinely care about their partner's pleasure. The "jokes" about male sexual performance can be funny if you accept occasional equipment malfunction and adapt to other mutually enjoyable pleasuring techniques. However, if you are afflicted by impotence, erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, it is definitely not funny. And, you know that worrying about it tends to make it worse. It can get to the point where you even want to avoid sex altogether to escape inevitable embarrassment and criticism.

Sometimes, our "special friend" just doesn't want to cooperate due to our stress, physical or mental exhaustion, excessive drinking, etc. There are of course certain male performance issues due to biological problems that will require medical attention. However, unless you have chronic erectile dysfunction, there are other solutions that you can use. They can dramatically transform your sexual performance and allow you to enjoy more satisfying pleasure with your partner. Discover how you can improve your sex life with lasting change instead of quick fixes or avoidance. Make your sexual performance, mutual pleasure and your happiness together a priority – you both deserve it.

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If an unfortunate equipment malfunction does occur, take the time to pleasure your lover in other ways. Remember that only 30% of women have actually achieved orgasm during intercourse – and that does NOT mean every time they have intercourse either. Women generally take longer to work up to orgasmic arousal which is why foreplay is so important. In addition to mental stimulation to set the mood, oral and manual stimulation of her entire body is essential (not an hour of thrusting).

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Secret Arts of Hot Erotic Talk - Talking Dirty is Hot Foreplay

Does the idea of dirty talk in the bedroom get you excited? Have you been asked to talk dirty while making love but are too shy to go for it? Or, do you want some hot erotic talk from your lover but they feel too inhibited to let go? You are not alone. Words and how we say them have an extremely powerful influence on our emotions good and bad.

Ever wonder why phone sex is such a big business? Guys spend many dollars a minute for hot, dirty talk from lusty women. And women swoon over a sexy voice and devour romance novels with descriptive scenes of seduction. Although most women and men tend to be shy expressing their erotic desires, we all love to hear a sexy voice focused on arousing us. With a few techniques, you can learn how to use your voice as a powerful aural aphrodisiac. Talking dirty is hot foreplay when you discover your special language of love.

But talking dirty is not just about using naughty or even filthy words. It is about the erotic emotions and desires you want to convey and express. Depending upon the context, you may want to scream profanities in unbridled passion or whisper the same words in public as a flirtatious hint of your frisky intentions. Consider the sultry whisper of a seductress, the harsh command of a dominatrix or the ecstatic moans of a porn star. You can stimulate your lover's erotic imagination with explicit and descriptive detail or seduce them with simple phrases spoken in a sexy tone.

When you learn a few secret aural arousal techniques and master the art of hot erotic talk, with practice, you will be able to:

• Seduce your partner into (or out of) bed to make wild, passionate love.


• Get your lover hot for you from a distance (phone sex or sexy voice messages) so they rush home to be with you.


• Relax your lover and help them become receptive to fully enjoy the subtle sensations of slowly and sensually pleasuring each other.


• Use your mouth in new ways to make your lover ache and quiver with desire for your physical touch.


• Prolong foreplay while keeping the sexual heat just below the boiling point.


• Describe in detail how you want to be pleasured in ways that are exciting and satisfying for both of you.


• Paint an erotic mental picture of new sex play activities you would like to try and see where they lead.


• Stimulate your erotic imaginations together and unlock secret sexual fantasies to share (every erotic activity is possible in your mind).


• Build sexual tension, increase passion and even trigger intense orgasms with almost hypnotic control.

To be effective, your erotic talk needs to seem natural to you so that you feel both comfortable and confident in what you say and how you say it. This comes from practice and by becoming more aware of what you both like. Some words and phrases may feel and sound awkward at first. Here are a few ways to practice talking dirty:

• When you are reading or watching a movie, keep track of sexy words used in romantic or arousing scenes. Make a list of erotic phrases you can use and, when alone, practice saying them out loud in a sexy voice. Get familiar with how the words sound and how they make you feel.


• Get yourself some erotic literature that includes descriptive terms for various body parts and sex activities. Include material your lover would read. Read short, steamy passages out loud and experiment with different ways to make them sound seductive as you speak them. Try whispering, lowering or raising your tone, using a throaty purr or even speaking with an accent.


• Write out a fantasy or short erotic story involving yourself and your lover. Weave in words and phrases you find arousing (from above). Read the story out loud to yourself using different types of voice to see which versions you find most arousing.


• Write out a list of sexual compliments (e.g. "I love the way you ...", "It feels so good when you ...") and desires (e.g. "I want your hot tongue ...", "Use your fingers to ..."). Say them out loud the way you envision using them. You may actually want to practice these while masturbating to feel how the words add to your arousal.

Once you feel confident with your aural skills, here are some ways to use erotic talk to spice up your sex life:

• While in a public situation, seductively whisper how you want to ravish your lover. Build the anticipation with naughty ideas that might just come true before you actually get home.


• Use erotically encouraging words to describe exactly what you want and need to reach an intense orgasm. Hearing your own words can be extremely exciting too.


• When internet dating, your first phone call is extremely important. A seductive voice and flirtatious words can stimulate an intense desire and sense of attraction for you.


• Engage in phone sex with your partner when you are apart (or even in separate rooms). Keep long distance relationships hot and passionate.


• Leave naughty voice messages that will make your lover rush home craving your touch.


• Record a sexy story or fantasy on your computer and download it to your lover's MP3 player or iPod. Since many play videos now, you can even use a webcam to record a sexy video of yourself telling the erotic story.


• Stimulate your lover's erotic imagination while you are making love. With their eyes closed, take them into a fantasy with your voice.


• When engaging in soft bondage play using a blindfold, use your voice to tease and tantalize your submissive lover. Describe what you are going to do before you do it (or surprise them and do something total unexpected).

Remember that you are using dirty talk to excite both your self and your lover. However, keep in mind that, for some people, certain words have emotional triggers to bad memories. If you do hit a nerve, learn from each other and adapt. When you are open and honestly communicate about sex, you will both feel empowered and be more willing to express your erotic desires. Learn to make love with words and you will be able to ignite sexual fireworks with your hot mental foreplay.

If you have been holding back using your voice as part of your arousal arsenal, learn to unleash its power now and be amazed at the erotic results.

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Get started today and unlock the secret, exciting, sexual powers of your voice. Expressing yourselves with erotic talk will also encourage you to have more intimate discussions and improve other aspects of your relationship. Learn the secrets or aural sex today and enjoy hot mental foreplay. Naughty, dirty talk in and out of the bedroom will spice up your relationship in many creative ways.

Also, if you are not yet in a relationship, learning to how to flirt and seduce with words is even more essential. These skills will be your most valuable asset when meeting and dating people any where. Internet dating especially relies on the power of your words and eventually your voice to generate attraction. Just imagine using a sexy seductive voice on your first phone call getting to know each other in preparation for that first date. Do it for yourself and the soul mate you will soon meet.

For more information, click Talking Dirty is Hot Foreplay for guys or The Ultimate Guide to Talking Dirty for women. Discover how you can use erotic talk to spice up your relationship and make sex even more exciting. You will be absolutely amazed at the sexual pleasures you unleash when you unlock the secrets of talking dirty.

Do you enjoy talking dirty in bed? What do you say to get your partner hot and ready for sex? Leave a comment describing your experience with erotic talk.

Get Frisky During the Holidays - 10 Randy Reasons to Have More Festive Sex

With all the hustle and bustle during the holidays, many couples tend to overlook their own pleasure. The spirit of giving should apply to yourself and your relationship as well. Not in a selfish way of course, but rather as a way to enhance your bond together so that you have even more joy and happiness to share. The holidays provide the perfect opportunity to get frisky with each other and have more intimate fun together. Here are 10 randy reasons to enjoy more sex during the holidays:

1. You have more time to leisurely enjoy deeper levels of intimacy. Luxuriate in the subtle sensual pleasures of prolonged foreplay as you creatively explore each others' mind and body.


2. When you have great sex you are happier with each other and toward other people. You will radiate a warm glow that will touch everyone you meet. You will indirectly share your love for each other and add more cheer to the holiday season.


3. Adapt the 12 Days of Christmas concept into a creative challenge to have different sexual experiences 12 days in a row. Plan unique sex play ideas together in advance or spontaneously surprise your lover with a totally new sensual delight each day. Bonus points if you can include all activities from previous days building toward a spectacular climax. Keep the erotic fires burning through the holidays.


4. Create lasting memories with a special new relationship building tradition just for the two of you. It can be simple and sweet such as slow dancing naked at midnight while kissing under mistletoe or extravagant like having sex together in a different city or country every year. Give yourself something naughty or nice to look forward to all year long.


5. Plan a private, more intimate gift giving time with distinctly erotic intentions. Surprise each other with unique or exotic luxury love toys and accessories that convey how much you treasure the pleasures you share together.


6. Get ready for an evening out two hours early then ravish each other while dressed up and looking your best. Have sex while partially clothed to make it even more exciting. Even if just a quickie, your sexy tryst will have you eagerly anticipating more fun when you return home. Also, it is a good reason to drink in moderation so you can keep your private after party going all night.


7. Sex burns off calories and is an excellent exercise when done vigorously for extended periods. Enjoy feasting while knowing you will need the energy later to keep up with each other. Hot & sticky sexercise sessions for at least 20 minutes three times a week can be great for your health.


8. Schedule time for sensual stress relief to break up the hectic holiday festivities. Great sex is an excellent way to melt away stress. Multiple sex therapy sessions during the day may be in order. If you don't think you have time for sex, reconsider, make it a priority and you will be amazed how good you feel.


9. Savor chocolates, sweet liquors and other deliciously succulent holiday foods while thinking of naughty ways to incorporate them into your sex play. Secretly flirt and tempt each other with decadent ideas of oral arousal. Everything will taste even better when you whet your erotic appetite for each other.


10. Challenge each other to have a simultaneous orgasm at the stroke of midnight on New Year's Eve. You may want to rehearse frequently before the big event to get the timing right.

Sexual intimacy is essential to a healthy, loving relationship. Regardless of your reasons, take advantage of any opportunity you can to make love. During this holiday season, show how much you appreciate the one you love by spending more intimate time enjoying each other. Your gift of loving pleasure will be treasured. Make pleasure a priority and enjoy great sex together as often as you can what ever your reason.

Invest in Your Relationship

The markets are in turmoil, prices are sky rocketing, businesses are failing and jobs are being lost. These financial stress factors are causing a negative spiral that touches everything in our lives. Although we try to hide our worries, increased stress creates a tension between the people we love at a time when we need them the most. This is the time when you need to invest in your relationship.

When times are tough and getting rougher, couples are at risk of creating a divide between themselves. They unintentionally allow adverse situations to influence their feelings for each other. We tend to distance ourselves from people with a negative attitude. But, when we do this to our partners, it leads to subtle feelings of resentment, distrust, and blame (among others) that simmer and bubble into a toxic brew that eats away at your relationship. All these bad feelings can turn to depression, anger and even hatred toward the person you love. This can lead to separation, infidelity, divorce or worse. You need each other now more than ever. Provide each other mutual support to resist negative emotions. Work together as a team to build a life filled with an abundance of fun, love and happiness.

It is unfortunate, but, in a relationship plagued by external stress factors, emotional, sensual and sexual intimacy are the first to go (usually in that order). Lack of desire or even erectile dysfunction adds to the stress and tension. Sex of course is the best medicine - good loving sexual intimacy is healing in so many ways. Not only does it strengthen your emotional bonds, your body and brain chemistry are perked up as well. It brightens your mood and just makes you feel good. While an orgasm is the ultimate in stress release, all your moments of affectionate closeness and mutual pleasuring help you cope with the intense pressures of life.

So, rather than watching the news, turn off the television and focus on loving and pleasuring each other. Guard your happiness together like the treasure it is and invest in your relationship so that it prospers. Interest in each other is worth so much more than a bank can give you. As a couple, be aware of world events but remember that sensual intimacy together is more critical than ever for your relationship stability. The economy will work itself out so ensure your relationship weathers this financial storm.

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Anal Sex – Natural Sex Ideas

Beautiful images from nature can stimulate very erotic thoughts. These two flowers are from my wife’s flower garden. Even alone, the resemblance to certain erogenous zones is hard to overlook. Together, your erotic imagination gravitates to a single taboo, albeit very natural, sexual activity. With this picture as inspiration, let’s consider a few anal sex and anal foreplay ideas.

Greek Tickler
Similar to a French Tickler, let’s dub this one a Greek Tickler – the tickler part is on the rear end too. I have seen a number of sex toys intended for double penetration of both the vagina and anus but don’t recall seeing any with tickler nubs. Butt plugs can be used as foreplay to prepare for anal intercourse or even kept in while having regular vaginal sex, oral sex or during other foreplay activities. Anal play is a naughty pleasure both women and men can enjoy regardless of sexual orientation. Remember to use lots of lubrication with your anal toys and be very gentle. All anal toys should have a flared base to ensure they do not get lost inside.

Double Entry
Many women fantasize about being completely filled up – both vaginally and anally at the same time. Whether you have a spare cock on hand or not, you can fulfill her fantasy with a penis double. A dildo, vibrator or butt plug are quick substitutes when you need to make a double entry – even accountants can do it (couldn’t resist).

Bud Sex
Just a little play on words but Butt Sex can be enjoyed by hetero-sexual men too. It has also been discovered that prostate massage via anal play may actually have health benefits. Prostate massage can create very intense orgasms by itself or combined with fellatio or a hand job. There are even sex toys specially designed as prostate massagers for men to be used during masturbation or sex with a partner. Consider experimenting with intercourse while having a butt plug inserted for an even more explosive orgasm. Guys that allow their girl friend or wife to penetrate them anally may also help encourage them to explore and enjoy anal intercourse too. Mutual anal play can definitely spice up your relationship. Check out this Bend Over Boyfriend article for some additional information. If you are interested in strap-on role reversal sex play, take a look at the Feeldoe or Nexus double dildos. There are also double anal dildos that can be used for a little cheek-to-cheek action.

Anal Artist
The anus is highly concentrated with nerves. Even if you do not intend to indulge in anal intercourse, creatively stimulating this sensitive region can be extremely pleasurable. Imagine painting the anus with a brush as though it were a delicate flower. Trace each petal lightly with a dry artist brush just tickling an outline of your master piece. Then add some lube to your brush and stroke the petals again with a nice smooth gliding motion. You could even use body paints for a visual delight. Choose various types of artist brushes and swirling, stroking techniques to create new sensations in your erotic art world.

Anal Intercourse
Intercourse does mean communication and anal sex definitely requires it. The anal tissues are extremely delicate and can be torn. Anal intercourse can actually be a more intimate sexual activity because it does require a deeper level of trust and sensitivity. When engaging in anal sex, go very, very slow at first and use lots of water based lubrication. Relaxation is critical to great anal sex. Stress related tension may build up in the ass making anal play less pleasurable. More foreplay will help your lover relax so that they can fully enjoy the intimately erotic experience of anal stimulation. See Anal Sex From A Female Perspective for more insights – there are related links to more of her articles on anal sex that are very well written.

Special Notes: Here are a few notes to consider when adding anal play to your sexual repertoire:

• You may not have seen many articles discussing the possible "mess" associated with anal sex. In general, fecal matter is not stored in the rectum but some may remain. Use a towel beneath you as a precaution. Porn stars performing anal sex scenes use an anal douche before the shoot to fully clean out the rectum. Again, the need to communicate helps in the preparation so that no one is anxious or feeling dirty.
• In the past, it was recommended to use desensitizing creams or lubes to "reduce the pain" of anal intercourse. In my opinion, this is extremely bad. First of all, anal sex should not be painful at all. With proper foreplay, anal stimulation and relaxation, the sphincter muscles will relax and easily accommodate a penis or dildo. You will want to feel stretching and fullness as part of your pleasure but definitely not discomfort. Second, pain is a warning that something could be tearing and desensitizing creams will suppress these important signals. You may even engage in rougher sex when you are not ready for it causing more damage. Third, the point of anal sex is to experience mutual pleasure. If you desensitize or numb the anal nerves you also reduce the sense of pleasure you can receive from them. This note also applies to alcohol and drug use. If you are engaging in anal sex just for the guy’s benefit and not your own pleasure too – don’t.
• Experiment with different positions to discover one that feels best. Doggie style, spooning, woman on top and missionary are a few variations that offer their own benefits. Also consider the psychological aspects of the different positions since they can add to the thrill of anal intercourse.
• Always wear a condom for anal intercourse even in a committed, monogamous relationship.

If you are a beginner to anal sex or do it often, check out this Anal Toys and Anal Pleasure article for ideas on how to more fully enjoy this taboo yet natural and very intimate sexual experience.

P.S. If you have ever watched the movie The Secret, you are aware of the powerful Law of Attraction. Something very curious happened as I was putting the finishing touches on this article. I subscribe to a number of sex related news letters. Within 8 hours while writing this particular article, I received two anal sex related emails – one from Eden Fantasys and another from My Pleasure. Wonder what or who will come next.

What other sexy ideas can you think of related to the picture above?

Locations to Make Love

Loch Ard Gorge Panorama picture from Wikipedia

Continuing on with the earlier Natural Foreplay Ideas post, here is a picture I stumbled upon that immediately conjures up interesting thoughts (at least in my dirty mind). It also ties in with a new article I recently published 69 Places For Passion - Lusty Locations to Make Love. You could actually check off a few of the 69 lovemaking locations at this spot:

• On a boat in the open air (not below deck)
• On the top of a large hill or small mountain under the stars or full moon.
• While skinny dipping at night in a pool, river, lake or ocean.
• Outside in the refreshing, cool rain during a hot day or night.
• Anywhere under the hot sun with an ice dildo.
• In a sleeping bag in the open air under a clear sky bright with stars.
• On a beach on the hot, dry sand or right on the shore with the waves lapping up around you.
• Anywhere you can see and hear huge crashing waves.
• In a cave, tunnel or under a bridge. (risky in caves around the water)
• In front of a tripod mounted video camera or webcam.
• Next to an open fire while camping.
• Snuggling together in a sleeping bag in a small tent.

A bedroom is a comfortable place to make love but there are so many exciting locations to have passionate sex. Whether spontaneous and urgent or planned for fun, sex in new locations can be extremely thrilling. Why not try to check off all 69 lovemaking locations and come up with more of your own.

Here are a few foreplay ideas using the picture as inspiration.

Wet'n Juicy
While kissing and licking her thighs, she uses her fingers to gently stroke herself. Observe her fingers as she tantalizes herself to demonstrate her desires. Learn her techniques and rhythm as she builds her arousal. When she is Wet'n Juicy, she will hold her lips apart for you to quench your thirst and hers.

See Juicy With Joy and Gushing With Pleasure for more details on amazing G-spot orgasms.

Gorging Pleasure
Use your fingers to spread her lips apart. Let your tongue slowly explore, teasing every nerve as you savor her taste. Lick, suck and nibble her lips then grab her hips and pull her onto your tongue. Make it penetrate deep into her vagina. Sweep the vaginal walls with your tongue for as long as you can. Let her guide your pace as you lick and suck her to absolute ecstasy.

Orgasmic Tsunami
More intense orgasms can be created by repeatedly building the arousal just to the brink and then slowing down or altering the type of stimulation. Keep the arousal flowing in pulsing waves but don’t let it get out of control until you want it to. When your lover is ready to burst in a flood of ecstasy, push her over the edge with your tantalizing tongue. Give her an earth shuddering orgasm with tidal waves of pleasure.

Over the Edge
During the heat of passion, you may find yourself going over the edge almost to the point of toppling out of bed. The sense of wild abandon can heighten your erotic thrill. Why leave it to chance. Position yourself over the edge of your bed and feel the exhilarating rush as you build toward an intense orgasm. Hold on tight for a fun ride Over the Edge.


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In what new location or setting would you like to have sex? What other foreplay ideas pop into your mind when you see the erotic image above?

Sexual Knowledge Equals Better Sex

I was browsing through the web using StumbleUpon and discovered a very interesting site called Cunnilingus: How To Eat Pussy. It is a very provocative site that includes a lot of useful sexual information combined with thoughtful research.

The introduction video expresses a philosophy of human sexuality that resonates with my own thoughts and feelings regarding relationships and the importance of sexual intimacy. Please take a look. I enjoyed watching her crack up through parts of it. Humor and sex is important too.

And, of course, her oral sex tips and techniques article is very well written too. You will enjoy her ideas. Take a look at the other articles on the site as well. With greater knowledge of our sexuality, we are more able to creatively explore shared pleasures with our partners.

Do you think you received enough sex education in school (not just the biology lessons)? What are your thoughts regarding how prepared people are going into a sexual relationship today?